When Families Fight — Walking With the Peacemaker
When Families Fight — Walking With the Peacemaker
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The last little while I’ve been thinking about families.
Good families.
Families that love each other… but sometimes still end up fighting.
It happens more often than we like to admit.
Sometimes it’s about money.
Sometimes it’s about misunderstandings.
Sometimes it’s about something that happened years ago that nobody ever quite worked through.
And before long, people who love each other start defending their position instead of defending their relationship.
I’ve been watching this happen in my own life recently, and it made me stop and think about something very simple.
What would the Peacemaker do?
The Peacemaker Walked Into Contention
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When Jesus walked the earth, He didn’t walk into peaceful situations.
He walked into arguments.
Pharisees arguing with Sadducees.
Disciples arguing about who was greatest.
Families divided.
Crowds shouting.
And yet His message was always the same.
“Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.”
(Matthew 5:9)
Notice He didn’t say:
Blessed are those who win the argument.
Blessed are those who prove they are right.
Blessed are those who quote the rules perfectly.
He said peacemakers.
A peacemaker is someone who decides that love matters more than winning.
The Trouble With Being Right
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One thing I’ve noticed about family conflicts is that almost everyone involved believes they are right.
And often… they are right.
But here’s the problem.
When two people are both trying to prove they’re right, nobody is trying to heal the relationship.
And that’s when families begin to fracture.
The Savior taught something simple that cuts right through this problem:
“Agree with thine adversary quickly.”
(Matthew 5:25)
That doesn’t mean surrendering truth.
It means choosing peace before pride.
The Past Can Be a Heavy Suitcase
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Families carry history.
Sometimes decades of it.
Little moments that hurt.
Misunderstandings that never got talked through.
Words spoken at the wrong time.
And every time a new disagreement appears, people start pulling things out of that old suitcase.
“You said this.”
“You did that.”
“Remember when…”
Pretty soon the argument isn’t about the present anymore.
It’s about years of accumulated hurt.
But the Peacemaker doesn’t carry the past that way.
Paul taught something powerful:
“Charity… thinketh no evil.”
(1 Corinthians 13:5)
In other words, love doesn’t keep a running list of wrongs.
Families After Parents Are Gone
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There is another truth that many families eventually face.
When the parents who held everyone together pass away, something shifts.
The center of gravity changes.
Suddenly siblings must learn how to navigate relationships without the person who used to hold everything steady.
Sometimes that transition is smooth.
Sometimes it’s messy.
But one thing remains true.
The love our parents hoped we would have for each other still matters.
A Choice We All Face
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At some point every family conflict comes down to a simple choice.
Do we want to win the argument…
or do we want to keep the family?
The Peacemaker showed us the path.
He forgave when He could have condemned.
He healed when He could have judged.
He loved when others chose division.
Walking With the Peacemaker
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Walking with Christ doesn’t mean we never face conflict.
It means we face it differently.
We pause.
We breathe.
We remember that the person across from us is still our brother or sister.
The Savior said:
“By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.”
(John 13:35)
Love doesn’t always make things easy.
But it makes healing possible.
What Matters in the End
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The older I get, the more I realize something.
Years pass quickly.
Parents leave this world.
Children grow up.
And one day the arguments that once seemed so important begin to look very small.
What matters then is not who won.
What matters is whether we kept loving each other anyway.
Because in the end, that’s what the Peacemaker taught us.
And that’s the path worth walking.
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Lately, I’ve been thinking about this more in my own family too.
And I’m realizing something simple.
We don’t have to agree on everything to stay close.
Sometimes the best thing we can do is slow things down, listen a little better, and remember why we love each other in the first place.
That’s something I’m still learning.
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